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In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily's first guest in the new studio is psychologist Dr. Scott Lyons, author of Addicted to Drama: Healing Dependency on Crisis and Chaos in Yourself and Others.

Dr. Lyons reveals how drama addiction isn't just obvious chaos—it's overscheduling, inability to tolerate stillness, and sabotaging intimacy when vulnerability feels threatening. He explains the biology: drama provides energy, numbs pain, and creates sensation that makes us feel alive.

Listener questions address a 21-year-old spiraling after her boyfriend called an actress sexy, and a 30-year-old wanting kinkier sex but getting triggered.

Dr. Lyons and Dr. Emily emphasize distinguishing sensation-seeking from authentic connection, coming back to the body when triggered, and recognizing how childhood patterns shape adult sexuality and relationships.



Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

3:32 - The Hidden Signs of Drama Addiction You Might Be Missing

9:24 - How Trauma Lives in Your Body and Shapes Your Behavior

13:36 - Why Drama Shows Up in Your Relationships and Sex Life

15:37 - Why Do I Feel Terrible When My Partner Comments on Other People?

27:35 - The Currency of Love: How Childhood Chaos Affects Adult Relationships

33:48 - I Want Freaky Sex But My Body Keeps Freezing Up

42:52 - Understanding Dissociation and Finding Your Way Back Home

50:00 - How Drama Addiction Blocks True Sexual Pleasure and Intimacy

52:32 - Five Quickie Questions with Dr. Scott Lyons

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In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily and producer Erica answer listener questions covering intimate challenges from anal play to mismatched libidos.

The episode addresses a woman whose boyfriend wants to try receiving anal rimming but can't relax into it, examining masculinity myths around pleasure. They cover penis cage safety during chastity play and what to watch for during extended use. Listeners also hear from a woman whose partner never initiates sex despite therapy, someone experiencing numbness during oral sex, and a recently divorced woman struggling to reclaim her sex drive.

Throughout, Emily emphasizes communication outside the bedroom, understanding our bodies' responses, and reclaiming sexuality as something we own for ourselves—not something tied exclusively to our partners.



Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

1:15 - Helping Your Partner Feel Comfortable with Anal Play

6:38 - Penis Cage Safety & Chastity Play Guidelines

13:49 - When Your Partner Never Initiates Sex

18:45 - Numbness & Tingling During Oral Sex Explained

23:07 - Reclaiming Your Sex Drive After Divorce

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In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily teams up with anthropologist Dr. Wednesday Martin to tackle pornography—one of modern sexuality's most polarizing topics. From addressing listener concerns about partners who need porn to climax, to exploring how porn shapes our sexual behaviors and expectations.

The episode examines real listener scenarios including a woman feeling inadequate because her boyfriend requires porn and dirty talk about other women to orgasm, and another struggling with her partner's search history filled with degrading terms. Emily and Wednesday also dive into the research on porn's actual impact on sexual aggression, the rise of choking and other behaviors in mainstream sexual culture, and the difference between ethical porn and typical productions.

Throughout the discussion, they emphasize that porn itself isn't the problem—it's often a communication issue. The episode explores how couples can use porn as a tool for sexual exploration and self-knowledge rather than a source of shame or conflict, while acknowledging the legitimate concerns about how mainstream porn represents sexuality and consent.



Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

4:27 - Historical Context: Porn Has Always Existed

8:23 - First Porn Experiences

17:20 - Research Findings: Porn's Actual Impact on Behavior

27:47 - Case Study: When Porn Becomes a Relationship Issue

37:32 - Ethical Porn vs. Mainstream

41:56 - Using Porn as a Learning Tool for Self-Discovery

50:42 - Communication Strategies: Talking About Porn Preferences

57:17 - Final Thoughts

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Episode Description:
In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily and producer Eric tackle listener-submitted "Am I The Asshole" scenarios focused on sex, dating, and relationships. From a wife refusing threesomes her husband demands to fix their struggling marriage, to a boyfriend dismissing his girlfriend's painful sex as exaggerated.

The episode examines a daughter's shock at discovering her mother's 24/7 BDSM collar and addresses sexual compatibility deal-breakers, including a five-month relationship ending over asexuality versus mismatched libidos. They also tackle friendship boundaries when a well-meaning friend reveals intimate details about someone's sexual past to their new partner.

Throughout these scenarios, Emily emphasizes that most relationship conflicts stem from lack of sexual education and communication skills rather than malicious intent. The episode reinforces the importance of honest self-reflection, clear boundaries, and recognizing when patterns aren't serving your relationships.


Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

1:21 - Threesome Pressure in Struggling Marriage

4:45 - Why Threesomes Don't Fix Relationships

8:03 - Dismissing Partner's Sexual Pain During Sex

11:04 - Understanding Vaginismus and Vaginal Pain

14:09 - Anal Sex Pressure Despite Clear Boundaries

17:15 - The Importance of Consensual Partners for Anal

18:46 - Discovering Mom's BDSM Collar Bombshell

22:00 - How to Have Healthy Sex Conversations with Kids

24:46 - Breaking Up Over Sexual Incompatibility

28:18 - Sexual Compatibility by 5 Months Rule

30:33 - Oversharing Friend's Threesome History

33:14 - Never Share Others' Sexual Stories

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In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily sits down with Violet Benson. Violet opens up about her intentional decision to step back from penetrative sex while working through attachment patterns that clouded her judgment in relationships.



How do you know when sex is creating unhealthy emotional attachment versus genuine connection? Violet shares her realization that sleeping with someone too quickly led her to ignore red flags and chase unavailable partners who mirrored her childhood feelings of being "not enough."



The conversation dives into Violet's egg freezing experience, including the intense hormonal and emotional effects that doctors failed to prepare her for. Violet takes Emily's Sex IQ quiz from the book Smart Sex, reflecting on how much her relationship with her body and pleasure has evolved.



They tackle a listener question about pursuing someone with major red flags just for physical chemistry, with both hosts emphasizing the importance of honest self-reflection over justification.



The episode explores embracing "clinginess" in dating, why vulnerability beats playing games, and how foreplay truly starts outside the bedroom. Throughout, Emily and Violet reinforce that understanding your patterns is the first step to breaking cycles that don't serve you.



Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

2:13 - Violet's dating hiatus

5:42 - Turning fears into boundaries

8:37 - Understanding attachment styles and childhood trauma in relationships

11:43 - Egg freezing experience

16:17 - Managing mental health during hormonal changes

21:00 - Sex IQ Quiz

26:31 - Listener question: Detaching emotions from physical intimacy

30:30 - Why being vulnerable beats playing games

35:41 - Why people are having less sex and connection

38:15 - Top 3 tips for authentic dating and better relationships

40:42 - Rapid-fire questions: Turn-ons, turn-offs, and relationship advice